Through our every day, acting has become second nature. We pretend that we are ok when we are not. We say it doesn’t bother us when internally we are screaming at the other person. We create a disconnect between how we feel on the inside with what we show on the outside, bottling up our sadness, anxieties, and frustrations. is that you should smash that bottle of emotions.



For too long, so many of us have felt the need to put on a smile. These days, “How are you?” is more of a greeting than an actual question. We have reduced it’s often complicated answer to a simple “I’m good” without giving any thought to how we actually are. In reality, being aware of how we feel, whether we are down or happy, is a way to take charge. It is this recognition and acceptance that is key. Reaching out if we need help leads to a better result compared to a massive breakdown, believe me. If we constantly bottle up how we are feeling, we are denying ourselves a chance to breathe and grow. When we suffocate our emotions, we are just pushing away the chance to remedy our sadness.

It sounds crazy to say, but sadness has some benefits. This natural human response alerts us to what is not right in our lives. If we didn’t feel unhappy from time to time, how would we see beauty in when we were happy. Ironically, sadness makes us further appreciate our joy and amplifies it. Plus, having a fat cry does make us feel good. Without feeling sadness sometimes, we wouldn’t be human.



If someone is doing something to annoy you, the best way to stop them is to not tell them. No. This does NOT work. Telling that person is the only way they will know that they might need to change how they are acting. Yes, that is right, unfortunately nobody can read anyone else’s mind.

We all know that silently ignoring what may seem like small annoyances in the moment really builds up and will inevitably lead to a fiery argument that could end in tears. Simply have an honest and open conversation and you would be surprised how much that could achieve. This extended lockdown with everyone in my family ontop of one another 24/7 has really put an air of tension in the air. Each day we are more worried about saying the wrong thing and we try to dodge one another to avoid clashes. It was so tiring trying to guess what the others in the house wanted. Eventually, my brother exploded at me. He hated that I didn’t close the bathroom cabinet door every time and that I left the outdoor chair out of place because I like to stand there without a chair. I was inconsiderate, messy, would be horrible to live with, and other nice things. The funniest thing is, if he had just told me that these small details meant so much to him, I could have easily put the chair back after I had finished every day and not been yelled at so aggressively.

For most of my life, I have seen people tip toeing around others. Everyone is afraid of confronting each other and lots is left unsaid. We reject genuine conversation reasoning that its not worth the hassle. Yet, this fear of saying the wrong thing drives a world based on mediocre satisfaction and half-hearted smiles.

I value authentic discussions that maintain peace rather than snipes and stabs that fuel resentment.