There comes a point in your life where you must stop and take stock of who you are – ideally this would be a regular reflection. We must understand our own worth. With this, we should accept that others may not respect us. So, it comes down to what we make of it and how much we respect ourselves. Here’s on understanding your own value.

1. How you see yourself
The first step in recognising your worth is looking at how you see yourself. As spoken about in my, you are what you say blog, we know that consciously and subconsciously the labels we put on ourselves change our viewpoints. So, we must speak wisely and accurately. It is up to us to control how we are viewed, most importantly by ourselves and then by others.

A fantastic way to recognise your value comes from a quantifiable mindset – which my numbers-driven brain sits well with. This means taking a look at what you have achieved or what you are proud of. Extending this a little further, is being able to decide what you want to achieve in the future. So maybe dipping into goal making or bucket list creating can be a useful method for you to see your value. I’m quite a visual results kind of person, so I adore such “ticking off” activities (to-do lists are non-negotiable) and it could be worthwhile for you as well to have a crack. Developing the capacity and ability to evaluate whether we are living a full life, indicates that we are willing to make mistakes and learn from them and thus become better as a result.


2. Get a grasp on your emotions
We are all aware by now that our emotions play a significant part in how we respond to circumstances. Actually, they are a pretty good indicator of how we see ourselves. Our routines, rituals and thinking are pretty much all programmed by them. In fact, research has demonstrated that humans are heavily controlled by emotions, that all operations of the mental process may be affected and overtaken by a single emotion. When we are overwhelmed, it seems our perceptions of the present moment are seen only through that emotion, and it is difficult to think differently. When emotions are not released in a healthy way, they can take a toll on us mentally and physically.

I know that my emotions can sometimes cloud my judgement (and make me yell out at some random driver who is tailgating me to no good end) and can really affect my engagement in the world. It is important to acknowledge that we can’t control what others do or the outside events in life. Nor should we fixate on the way that others make us feel. Yet what we can control is our response and being in sync with our internal minds is surprisingly refreshing. So, attempt to smash the bottle in an effort to discover how you feel.


3. Make your own decisions
What we accept is what we get. Building up our own standards and creating a threshold for what we find tolerable in life is key to the idea of self-worth. In my blog we get what we settle for, I speak about the fact that it is our sole responsibility to determine what it is we need and what it is we deserve. The only person that gets to define your value as a human being is yourself and don’t let others tell you otherwise.

Having worth as a human is directly linked to making our own decisions about our lives. Focusing on choosing better over more in all aspects of life whether it be in deciding our friendships, to tailoring our exercise routines, significantly impacts our actions and interactions. The classic saying of it is what it is doesn’t have to be an excuse for us to just sit back and live like puppets. Every day we make a decision to live our lives for ourselves or for the expectations of others .The reality is, it is ultimately up to us to form the world we want to be living in, so stop living in the shadow of someone’s wishes instead, focus on your own.


4. Take a look at your morals
It goes without saying that morality and strength of character are two very integral parts of the worth of the human. Being able to speak openly, thoughtfully and most importantly, honestly, is definitely a trait that more of us should try to develop. I’ve always respected those who manage to share their opinion and can admit when they’re wrong in a conversation. Spoiler we are allowed to make mistakes. It is always more admirable when someone is able to recognise their faults and make progress towards addressing them.

In a nutshell, your value as a human being is something you produce on your own. There are no strict set of rules that govern it’s meaning. For me, a human’s value comes from their priorities, their relationships, their ability to articulate emotions and thoughts, and most notably, the way they feel and communicate with themselves. It’s okay, well, actually, it’s healthy to put your health and wellbeing at the forefront. Think about it the more you value yourself, the more likely you’re going to make others seek their value too, or at least, the happier you will be.